Obsession, Addiction, and Looping
As I was getting ready for work this morning, a song popped in my head. One I had not heard in many years. It took me back to a very… interesting time in my young life. About twenty years ago, actually.
When I was 13, I was battling addiction.
You’ll find in a lot of my blog posts that music is a huge part of my life. This post is no different. In fact, this post is actually about all about a song.
The year was 2000. And I became addicted to a song. No, not just “really into” a song. Not just one of those things where you love it or it gets stuck in your head. It was causing me severe withdrawals when I couldn’t hear it. I was completely obsessed over having it hear it ONE MORE TIME just to “be okay”. It was all I could think about. “When can I play that song again?” “How much longer?” “How many times can I play it?” It completely consumed me as a person. As soon as I heard it, the chemicals in my brain released that “happy feeling” and as soon as it was over I was depressed. I had to listen again. Again. Again. Again. Again.
If you’re curious what song it was, it’s a bit embarrassing, but it was “Livin’ La Vida Mickey”. A Disney remake of the song “Livin’ La Vida Loca.” It HAD to be the Mickey Mouse version. With the music video. It was a pretty tame/innocent version compared to the original. Kid-friendly, I guess. I don’t even know why or how I became addicted. I remember the music video coming on TV, and, I don’t know what happened. I got hooked. I remember downloading a version online so I could watch it whenever. “Whenever” being, when I was allowed to, because my parents also noticed I was getting a bit too obsessed with this.
At this point in my life, I can listen to that song and not have a problem. I haven’t seen the video in years so I couldn’t even tell you what was in it. Maybe it was the video itself with the song that got me hooked? Who knows.
But I do know this. Autism can trigger addictive and obsessive behavior. And boy was I in one heck of an addictive state.
Why am I writing about this now? Well, like I said, the song just popped into my head this morning and got me thinking about the different types of obsessive behavior in relation to autism.
You’ve probably heard of earworms, those songs that get in your head and you just can’t get them out? I’ve had that. That’s pretty common for most people. I wouldn’t really call that obsessive behavior. That’s more of a “catchy tune” and it’s something your brain just kind of picks up on and latches onto and nothing to really worry about.
In this situation, it was really was an addiction. Like I said, complete with withdrawals and depressive states without it. And it was just a song! Just a silly song and a funny little video. This goes to show just how easily we can become trapped in our own minds when we live in a repetitive state. Which brings me to my next topic – looping.
You’ve probably seen a video or heard a song where it’s on “loop”. The same thing plays over, and over. It’s an infinite cycle of one thing. I think I’ve discussed looping before but it’s a good time to bring it up again.
I’ve had episodes where I’ve been literally haunted by a loop. Totally different from an addiction. It gives me no sense of value or endorphins or serotonin or anything. It’s just THERE. My mind will cycle something to a point of driving me crazy.
My earliest memory of this was when I was about 8. And a commercial jingle got stuck in my head so hard that it was on loop nonstop for at LEAST a week, maybe two. Nothing could make it leave. It would be on repeat in my brain like an intruder, loudly playing, and I couldn’t escape it.
As an adult, I still get loops. Sometimes it’s a tune. Sometimes it’s a scenario. Sometimes it’s a place. Any sort of thought that gets stuck on repeat with no end in sight. It’s maddening.
So what do I do with a loop? Well the simple answer is, when something is caught in a loop, you have to stop it. Now, if it was something tangible, you could just turn it off, right? But the brain is a little more tricky than that.
If it’s a song, it’s a little easier. I’ve learned to just play other songs until the loop breaks. Unfortunately, that can take up to a few days to completely break a song loop, but it has worked for me. I also have to eliminate the loop song from my playlist altogether until the cycle is broken.
If it’s an image that won’t go away – let’s say I might have seen something disturbing on TV and I can’t get it out of my head. This one is harder. I have to force myself to not engage that thought. I have to force myself to “look away” in my mind. I have to find anything else to distract me. I have to live in a constant “distracted state” because if my mind rests, it might go back to that image. Once I’ve lived in distraction mode long enough, usually the image will go away. This can take up to months to get rid of, depending on how disturbing it was for me, but in that time, it’s not constant. It will appear less and less frequently in my mind until it goes away altogether.
A situation, on the other hand, is something I tend to lock into when I’m either in a state of high anxiety or anticipation. This has to be addressed similarly to the “images” loop. But if you’re currently IN THE SITUATION it’s hard to not think about it. Some of these situations could be, when you might be in a disagreement with someone and it lasts awhile, or making big life decisions, or there are changes going on around you. It’s easy to obsess over all of the details, repeating scenarios and potential outcomes in your mind over and over. I feel like most people tend to do this too. I really don’t know how to stop overthinking here. I’ve tried to just “change the subject” in my brain and I guess that helps. Talking things out with others too. It can certainly become a problem when I just feel like I’m sitting in that situation with no real outcome.
Now that I’ve addressed looping and my battles with that, I want to go back to addictions.
If I do find myself developing addictive behavior, I now try to monitor it. Luckily I haven’t had problems with it in recent years. With anything, if behaviors tend to show up, it’s best to take precautions to make sure they don’t become a real addiction. Even if it’s something as simple as a song. Don’t become a slave to something you can control. Find alternative ways to get those “high” feelings without becoming dependent.
Side note: A GREAT book that was recommended to me many years ago is “Codependent No More” by Melody Beattie. She talks about her alcohol addictions but the same principles can be applied to literally any other situation. People, things, substances, anything.
Something else to consider that I’ve been reading about: is it bad to prevent someone on the spectrum from engaging in repetitive behaviors if they use it as a coping mechanism? Short answer: It depends!
Again, if something is becoming an ADDICTION, something that is obviously providing some sort of obsessive rewards system, then that’s something that really needs to be addressed before it becomes some sort of dependent behavior.
If it’s something that’s more of stimming, or something that calms down the person to keep their anxiety in check, then I really think that’s okay as long as it’s not harmful to themselves or others.
I have no issue with listening to the same song on repeat over and over for half an hour if it helps me be calm or makes me happy. If it comes to a point where you can’t be okay WITHOUT it, then, yeah, time to keep it in check.
Hopefully this was a little insight into an autistic mind and some of the struggles we encounter. Maybe it gave you some things to think about for yourself, too!